October 30, 2013

#ThrowbackThursday: Grandpa's Basement

Written by Ruby A. Iadeluca

This seemed appropriate since today is Halloween....



My family lived next door to my great-grandparents for many years. During the summers, my sister and I would spend the day with the great-grandparents. Often times we would wake and once ready for the day, we would ride our bikes along the path that led from our house to theirs. During the school year, depending on mom and dad's schedule, Dad would drop us off in the morning before school.

I remember freezing in the morning in my pajamas (so maybe it was during Christmas break), being driven in the black of early morning down the road to their house. The super-large snow-flakes coming at the windshield like a swarm of killer bees.

Once there, I recall mostly the basement in the winter mornings. Grandpa was up and waiting for us. Grandma still a-slumber in their warm bed. As a way to keep it quiet for Grandma, Grandpa would usher us down the narrow gray-painted stairs to the warm basement. After stoking up the wood furnace, the games would commence. Grandpa was always a good sport. For little kids, it seemed so easy to keep us occupied. Who knew that you could sit for hours in a heated competition with your Great-Grandpa trying to drop clothes-pins onto the rim of a Mason jar? He always won.

And who knew the finding of a little silver thimble could be such fun, especially when you found it inside the hem of Grandpa's pant-leg or better yet, inside of his hairy ear!

The basement was a kind of eerie place to play for my sister and I. "Play" in the sense that it might be fun to play as long as we were together. Alone - not so much. It was dark. It was damp. During the winter it smelled of pungent stacked wood and smoke. In the summers it smelled of earth and dampness.

The creepiness started at the top of the stairs. It was an old house, so to begin with, the doors were all wood, stained dark, with glass knobs - and the old-fashioned keyholes. The kind that took a skeleton key. The stair case seemed very long and narrow and as soon as you cleared the floor above, it was an open stair case with just a railing on one side. For us kids, the whole scene? Just. Plain. Scary.

At the bottom of the stairs, to the right, was another wooden door. This door was the freakiest in the whole house! The same wooden door, but not as well cared for, so it seemed dull and dirty. And I think this one may have had a metal knob. On the other side of this door.... there was no light switch. You had to pull the string on the fixture in the middle of the room, and though the room was tiny, and an adult could probably have reached the string from the doorway, it seemed to a small child as though it were miles away - in the dark. The floor was dirt, and the narrow wooden shelves were lined with canned fruits and vegetables and meat. (Side note: I love canned meat! Great-grandma made the best mincemeat pies!) This small room always seemed to contain more than its fair share of cobwebs, too!

The deep freezers were located in the basement. These weren't so creepy. Not unless you spent too much time thinking about what might be inside....

There was also a little gray school desk. The kind of desk you would find in a one-room school house, where you needed the desk behind you so you'd have a seat to sit on. The hinged lid lifted to an interior that I'm sure some child-sized apparition kept its invisible slate board in. Also on top, was a hole that seemed a mystery for years, until we finally discovered that it was once for holding an ink pot. It always seemed to me as though it may have a ghostly school-aged spirit that sat there with it, waiting for class to start. When I went to the basement alone, I never passed to closely to this desk.

Helping Great-Grandma and Grandpa with the washing was something I'll always remember as a fun time. The actual washing of laundry is kind of a blur. But I certainly remember helping to wring the clothes!

 
 
The clothes would slosh in the washer and drain through a hose leading to a drain in the cement floor. Though very carefully watched - and probably helped - I was then allowed to feed the wet clothes though the electric wringer. I loved that job! They would come out on the other side as flat as a board and we would have to get them into the clothes basket and not on the floor. Then, depending on the season, we would either help hang the clothes outside on the line or inside on the line. I could be wrong, but I think I was pretty good at it.
 
Great-grandma may have thought different; but if she did, she never said.
 
Maybe next #throwbackthursday I'll concentrate on the magic of the small yellow kitchen. Until then: Happy Haunting!  

 
 
 


October 17, 2013

#ThrowbackThursday: Great Grandpa's House

Written by Ruby A. Iadeluca

The following stems from an old college Literature paper of mine. And seeing as how I wrote it, I took many, many liberties correcting and embellishing where needed. My hope is that this will be a lengthy series.:

I spent a lot of my early childhood days in a place I could have very easily called home. This place was my great-grandparents' house. The lived in a light green, two-story, brick house. It was a peaceful setting, off the busy road. It was surrounded by towering maples and pines, which lent to the mint-green coolness of the brick house.

A garage, matching in color, squats beside the house. And behind that is a small barn, built with pine and a slanting metal roof. Small windows, fly-strips, tractor parts, saddles, bits and reins occupied the barn, lying still, covered in dust. With the ponies gone the barn seemed to sit in a vacuum tube of bygone days. The empty pony pens' floors matted with moldy straw.

It was a small barn, built with a low ceiling to accommodate the hayloft above. One day, after I was told to leave the ponies alone because they were lame, I went down to the barn. My pony's name was Sam. My sister's pony's name was Sarge or Sergeant. Sam was mine because he was a little smaller than Sarge. When I went down to the barn, the ponies were standing at the manger, not necessarily eating, but standing there in the mud-tray to aid their lame hooves. I spoke to them. I curried them. Then, child that I was, I hoisted myself onto Sam. He immediately bucked and I remember hitting my head so hard on the low ceiling that I saw stars. Foolish child! Should have listened to Great-grandpa. I climbed down gingerly and walked back to the house trying to act as though nothing had happened.

I remember so many details of that era; of that house. Grandma always wore dresses. She had good dresses for church and visiting. And she had her every-day dresses. She had lots of pretty aprons, too. She was always baking. The smell of fresh bread every week was a delight to the senses, even for a child. And if we were lucky - we could smell a loaf of cinnamon bread, too! I can remember pancakes for lunch. Grandma, though often thought of as an ornery woman and a stickler for penny-pinching, loved us girls and Grandpa tremendously. We often got chocolate milk with lunch, and once in a while we were treated to milkshakes made with the mixer on the kitchen wall. They were always served in these glasses that had monkeys on them.

To this day I have a hard time eating raspberries. I loved them as a child; I really did! One day, Grandma and Grandpa, my sister and me sat on the enclosed porch at the back of the house to eat our lunch. Dessert was a small bowl of freshly picked raspberries. So fresh, mine had a tiny white worm inside of one. I probably started to cry. But Grandpa, softy that he was, tried to make me laugh and believe that it wasn't that big of a deal. He squashed the teeny-tiny worm with his finger and ATE it!! He may have scarred me for life when it comes to raspberries, but I'll always remember this loving act!

However, I can certainly eat my fair share (and then some) of raspberry fluff atop yellow cake!

October 14, 2013

Hostile Take-down?

Last week was a bum deal. I had no snacks at work. And when it's that time of the month (which is 32 days a month) - I need snacks! I've almost always got something tucked away in my drawer or in my over-head cabinets: a stash of Cheez-its, a supply of granola bars, candy corn, etc. But occasionally I run out and with four kids, there's not always time to make that quick stop at the grocery store to re-supply.

So today I brought pretzels with me. Dry . . . cheap . . . pretzels. They weren't very satisfying last night and I highly doubt they will do the trick today. Especially since I forgot to bring my refillable water bottle. Now I'm going to have to walk across the complex to the on-sight cafe and get a water. And while I'm there, I may as well load up on snacks. I have one Lean Cuisine left in our break-room freezer. But as I mentioned earlier. . . (I need snacks.)

So how do you remain pleasant and professional - and not scare people when you walk into the cafe and grab three bags of potato chips, pop-tarts and a pack of Nutter Butters, all the while biting your lip so you don't hurl out in a deeply demonic voice "I NEEEED SNAAACKSSS!"?

Then of course, I'll have to walk back across the complex without dropping my armload of goodies... and I know that day is coming. I haven't dropped my lunch (or snacks) yet, and I've worked there for almost 6 years. I'm sure that bringing my lunch the majority of the time is part of the reason, too, that I haven't dropped anything yet while crossing the lot. But each successful trip, means I'm one trip closer to the inevitable.

Much  the same as an empty stomach makes it hard to sleep at night, when I need snacks, I find it too hard to concentrate on anything. Sometimes I crave sweets, but not chocolate. Sometimes I want nothing but chocolate. Sometimes I need salty, specifically Pringles, or specifically pizza flavored Combos, or even just plain saltines.

For a while now, the ladies in my family have made chocolate covered pretzels for Christmas. I absolutely love these. They're inexpensive and quick and easy to make. But the last few years, my mom has made sweet'n'salty heaven: Saltine crackers with a layer of creamy peanut butter inside - then dipped in chocolate! Fan - Flipping - Tastic!! It's the perfect indulgence to end all cravings. And you're getting your protein at the same time. Win-win I'd say.

In reality, I could live without snacks. I really could. But here's the science behind the formation of this habit:
  • My Parents: It's true: We can blame almost anything on our parents. When I was a young kid at home we always had snacks in our house! Mom got groceries once a week (that's what I call extreme discipline!) And we did, we always had snacks! Pop, chips, ice cream, cookies, Little Debbies. Both of my parents grew up in farming families so Mom knew how to cook and bake. Her pies are superb! She always had something fresh and home-made in case company stopped by, and that was nearly every evening. Besides the baking, the actual snacks she got at the grocery store was because Dad always wanted something to snack on. So it was a habit learned early on. A house without snacks in it is a foreign concept to me.

  • SAHM: Stay-at-Home Moms deserve a lot of credit. They work hard raising the children, cooking meals, transporting children, cleaning the house, doing the laundry, paying the bills, etc. I was a SAHM early on in my marriage and I read the parenting magazines and believed what they said. I believed that I worked hard and that I deserved a little "me time". A cup of coffee and a slice of home-made coffee cake (amongst other things).

  • The Italian Way: I married into an Italian family. And what do Italians love to do? Two things: 1. Cook  2. Eat    No complaints from me! It doesn't help the habit either, when the family has a restaurant. There were always bread sticks. "Just have a quick bowl of minestrone with a slice of fresh bread." or "Just have a sfogliatelle." Then when my husband and I ran the restaurant, my place was in the office and it was a constant to have someone asking me to try this or try that. Again, no complaints from me.

  • Present Day Therapy: This I owe to being a female and having a Mom and a Sister. And stress. Mom has stress. Sister has stress. I have stress. Who doesn't? And once in a while we just need to get together to de-stress. This typically means a trip to Bud's. An Irish Cream latte please. And they have the best donuts! And if you're lucky, they have day-old donuts bagged by the dozen for sale: half off. Anyhoo. . . We call this our therapy session. We vent, we talk, we laugh. We come away from this session and head off in our different directions feeling refreshed, cleansed, like we can now take on the week ahead.

In summary, I could live without the snacks. Though it would be a hard battle. I would need to completely retrain my brain to remain calm and concentrate on the task at hand no matter how much my stomach grumbles, or how much my cravings are telling me to just have a cracker. Yeah, it's possible. Do I want to do it?

More importantly, would people around me want me to do it? I think not.

These items may or may not be found in my drawer at any given time.

October 8, 2013

Bringing it all in

It's time.

Time to down-size. Consolidate. Bring it all in and get it together.

I've been trying to run a few different things now and I fear that I must admit that I'm feeling defeated, in a sense. But rather than giving up completely some of these ideas that I've come up with. I think, rather, that it's just time to trim the fat and concentrate of the protein that will (hopefully) get me through the winter.

Alright. What I'm really trying to say is that I need to shut down one of the blogs. One gets more hits (way more hits), and one makes more money. So it's time to move on and say 'Good Bye'. But to which one?

I already know... But still dread saying it out loud. Or, rather, pulling the proverbial plug! I feel as though they are all children. Children that I've given birth to and nurtured and raised and allowed them to blossom into the different personalities that they are. Children that don't talk back. I control them. Completely.

It's also time for some structure. Time to focus all efforts on one blog. Give it more structure. More routine. Whip into shape. Market it to the big boys and lets see if we can place for a medal. Gold preferably. But we'll see. The coach, as well as the athlete are both amateurs. But they are serious amateurs, honing their skills. Learning and working and practicing.

Wow! That's some really good wine!

"How can you type without looking?" asks my 6yo, as I simultaneously write (type), watch McClintock (pretty feathers), and adjust her blankets around her.

"Well," I respond, "Because I know where the keys are without looking. Mr. Anderson taught all of us kids to type when we were in the 9th grade." I'm pretty sure we were among the last to have an actual typing class. Remember those days when you could actually know your WPM, and be proud (or maybe not so much) to put them on a resume?

I do.

So to wrap up tonight. I'm going to complain about my oldest. She turned 20 today. A whole score! That's awesome! But she opted, because it's her birthday, to not do any chores today and to go out with a boy she met at college. A boy she hardly knows. She didn't come home to have a steak dinner with her family. A steak dinner that her dad made with his oldest daughter fondly in mind. And she didn't come home for dessert. A dessert of warm, super thick brownie, straight from the oven, lying alongside melting French vanilla ice cream, with whipped cream and chocolate syrup on top. Nope. She decided it was much more to her liking to spend time with someone she hardly knows. Instead of spending time with her loving family, she would rather go out with this boy - that we haven't met yet. We don't know who he is. But apparently, right now, he means more to her than the rest of her family.

Okay. I'm just going to save this post and set it aside for now. We've just had a major melt-down in the living room and all feeling for this post and flown out the window into the cold, dark, autumnal night.

Maybe I'll come back to it. Maybe I won't.

Oh, and to give you a little hint (about which blog I'm keeping versus which one I'm going to close the doors on), I think I'll be keeping the one that has SpellCheck. No brainer, I'd say.